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I was listening to a game designer, and TH-cam served me your video next pretty randomly - Sounds like you're another hurting American. Sorry man. Get out of there if you can. Try to hang on to something good, and get away from the hate-mill down there pitting you against each other. Best of luck and much love from Canada.

I don't know why, maybe stupid TH-cam algorithms, but I think I needed this wholesome ramble, so thank you for posting.

One of my favorite books by my favorite author. I really like Cherryh's writing style too, I believe she calls it third person limited. P.S. Chanur is spelled wrong in the title, you might get more views if you fixed it.

Why do you not pronounce his name correctly? It cuts your credibility.

Why would you bring kids to this hell

The benefits of having an intact family (no divorce) are immeasurable.

I like my kids, raise them to like them.

the best computer I ever had was a library card doe anybody remember going to the library to look something up

Hey there, Tuna. I would be hesitant to cut someone out of my life over politics. Several people in my life are stubborn and set in ways that I don't agree with, but I love other things about them. That said, if your online relationship is mostly centered around politics, I can understand how frustrating/exhausting that would be. Personally, if I felt there was still value in our friendship, I would use the snooze feature on Facebook (I'm assuming that's where these discussions are) that way he could still be a friend. All the best!

Losing a friend over political arguements is so lame to me. I can understand it if threats are made, but otherwise its silly. You might be this person's only voice of reason/opposing point of view. Then again, I dont know anything about this other person, so I'm referring to an abstract idea.

Go have a look at the video with Oprah when she LAUGHS at a mother who talked for 3 minutes about school shootings. She is evil through and through. Anyone who would vote her is a moron.

Wow , you are totally deluded to say Obama and Biden , Harris have not hurt people ! Yes if Trump did that it was wrong ! Trumps time in Office was far better for Americans than anything the Democrates have done since Carter ! Just don't vote this year ! There is absolutly nothing good coming from Harris and her puppet masters for this Country !

I've been a Neil fan for decades now...and frankly, this has been devastating. Of course, innocent until proven guilty in a court of law, but I think what hurts the most (apart from the allegations of course), is that it goes against the image he's presented down the years. As a creative I have looked to him as inspirational, as a trans person I have looked to him as a well-known ally, but as a victim of SA myself, I can only currently look at him with betrayal. I don't want this to be true, and somehow hope the allegations are proven false, but 😪😔

I've been looking for more 90s music to listen to, will definitely be checking it out!

Thank you for expressing what a lot of people probably felt. People around me talked glowingly of Neil Gaimen before the allegations, so my attitude towards him was generally a positive one. He felt like someone I could aspire to in the future. It's all just so disappointing and a gigantic letdown to have these stories and experiences come to light. It darkened my already cynical heart.

Hey there, Tuna. You pose a great, deceptively simple question and there is a lot to unpack there. I have to wonder if the lack of tone in text-based communication makes discussing important/sensitive topics all the more difficult. When I read a comment I don't like, my brain often defaults to giving that person a snarky, condescending tone. However, when I'm talking to someone in person, I can empathize with the intention behind their words, even if I don't agree. In the mire of social media, it seems that words are only positive or negative, with little room for nuance. I think when we forgo those conventions of natural human conversation, we lose a lot.

Sad thing is , especially with books there are no digital versions of the old ones. Or they only have the first version. Books smell (good) and you can see how thick they are and what itvis about really easily. Digital books are harder to browse because all the info isn't obvious at first glance like an object is. Storage is an issue, so I live in both worlds. I already have 9 bookshelves and my kindle has just as many titles.

Poop, It's N.K. Jemisin. I got the name wrong.

I would take it one step further and say what if everyone grew something edible in their backyard. I think learning survival skills would change how we interact with each other.

Thank you for your video. Yours was the only I could find less than two weeks old (under twenty min). I appreciate how you broke this down and agree with you re: not being a super fan but finding it more disturbing because of how he branded himself. Gaiman came across as a champion of the downtrodden and always generous to his fans! Admittedly, I did like him less after his tirades about race-swapping in fantasy (because in the UK world, where skin colour doesn't exist to the point of erasing the existence of distinct cultures -- including racist history -- is flawed imo). Gaiman calling the one woman accuser severe mental health was an admission of his guilt to me because he would still be culpable. Especially as she was his employee and trapped on the island alone with no money. Very predatory. I find it disturbing how TH-cam news channels aren't covering any of it (compared to past people with often less horrific details). Thanks again.

I have been watching peoples reactions and am still shocked. I should not be shocked or surprised but I am. I am 61 and have been reading his work ever since the Sandman comics came out. As a parent to young adults. I could not even imagine having sex with someone my children's ages. Even if these girls are lying about the nonconsent it upsets me that he would touch a person that is younger than his own first three children. I am a hypocrite in a way because I only had older lovers when I was in my 20's but all of them were a bit abusive. I remember one guy telling me that he only went out with younger women because they were easier to control. He wanted to be called, "Master." Like he is trying to mimic the leonard Cohen Master song. Ish ...

I never understood the cameras and shit in your car. If you need a camera on the back of your car, you shouldn't be driving. I'm not saying that as some elitist "I'm better than you" rhetoric, I'm saying that because you are driving a 1500+ pound death machine capable of going at least 60 MPH in population centers. If you need cameras to help you back that thing up safety, you shouldn't be moving that thing at all and we, as a society, need to invest heavier into public transportation and city planning to make sure the people who shouldn't be driving have easy, reliable, and safe transit anywhere. That being said, I'd like to see more walkable cities, but I don't think that will literally ever be a thing in America. We're just too lazy to want to walk everywhere, let alone tear down entire swaths of cities and rebuild more practically.

More than once a bully accused me of bullying for beating their ass when I caught them bullying somebody. I don't know if this was projection or manipulation, though.

Your voice is really comforting and calming :)

Title an homage to Matt Pless?

I'm sorry you're going through this. I know you're probably not looking for pity or sympathy, but I know what it feels like to go over a decade of your life without forming any meaningful connections. it was like that to the point where I actively made it a life goal to make friends in person and maintain a solid connection. for reference, I am a 27-year-old introverted male with autism, so socializing even now isn't exactly my strong suit. but I just didn't want to feel the pain of isolation anymore. I remember spending most of my time growing up watching channels like achievement hunter and seeing a small group of people get together, play games, and make stupid jokes that everyone would laugh at. I remember wanting that so badly that it became a dream of mine to be part of a group like that despite not knowing how. a few years ago, I remember one of my coworkers talking to me about D&D. I had never played before, and she offered me to join her group to play for a few sessions. at first, getting to know the other people in the group was painfully awkward, but I kept that other fear of going back to a world of isolation in the back of my mind as motivation to keep playing, giving it my all, pouring hours into learning about this new hobby so I could better connect, and putting in the effort into being as enthusiastic about the game as I could. I was severely out of my element, but the alternative was the same static life of wishing I had friends at all and waiting for nothing to happen. for me, I treated this like it was my only chance, but I did everything I could to be fun, make jokes, just do what I can to be happy and share that happiness with the others. the difficult part was trying to find a way to be fun without crossing the line into being overbearing or obnoxious. somehow, I managed. nowadays, we text each other multiple times a week, just sending memes to each other or talking about work or family or events that we would like to go to. we find places and times to do something. doesn't matter what it is or where, just as long as it's an excuse to hang out and have fun. we do that as often as we can and it does take energy, it does take conscious effort to organize this. but in the end its more than worth it. I look back and can't remember if it was luck or desperation that led me to making friends with this small group of strangers, but it hardly matters now. If I were to offer any advice, I'd say make it an active goal to work toward, if that means using a hobby to connect to others with similar interests then that's an option and use the thought of not wanting to go back to a life of relative isolation as a motivating force. from what it sounds like, you already have a solid rapport with other people, be it online or in person, so it is a good start. it just takes that extra step, and I know it's easier said than done, it can be absolutely terrifying not knowing if it will work or not. maybe you have already tried what I said. but regardless, I believe you absolutely can make friends like the ones you say you want to have. I believe you are a lot closer to that goal than you think. please understand I am also not a professional by any means, and if this really is something deeper than difficulty forming connections, I would suggest therapy. maybe a fesh set of eyes could help you find your answers. anyway, sorry for the absolute tome of a comment. I'm wishing you the best of luck going forward.

There are 4 novelizations (basically to the time-jump). Phil goes WAY back (his first What's New was in Dragon #41) and he did a VERY cartoony diagram of Computer Data flow back in the 1970s. He also did the adaption of the first "Myth Adventures" a LOT of interior illustrations for the series. Buck Godot and Xxxenophile (an adult comic with a sense of humor and a lot of guest inkers). When popped up in Magic the Gathering, he had gotten Married to Kaja, and they did Comics for Magic and then back at Dragon, before settling in to GG. Somewhere in there he did some pro and fan work with Nick Polata (who gets name checked in the novels as the engineer of one of the walkers Gil hit with his lightning stick including the Fan Dub "You say Yamato" (he also did a couple episodes of the Star Blazers Comic Book, which is why that put upon grad student in Mechanicsburg looks like she does).

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It's so weird to me seeing people "suffering" because of this, I've lived in a third-world country all my life, and we were never able to afford buying physical media, and it seemed like this was the case with everyone I knew, when a friend in school told me he had BOUGHT a movie, I thought he was rich (he had a ps3 while everyone else had a PS2 so maybe he was lol), the "Uprising" of digital media has been a good thing for people like me, who could only watch whatever was on TV using an old TV with an antenna until like 2014 when my family decided to pay for cable (and we didn't have more than 10 channels here if not using cable)

I f with the content heavy gramps you should review "Good Kid, M.A.A.D City" by Kendrick Lamar next

Have you read Books from Brandon Sanderson or Blake Crouch?

Comming out is never not terrifying. Best case scenario, you can bring the anxiety that comes with it from an 8 or 10 down to maybe a 4. I was scared to come out to my friends who are openly gay and trans and are accepting and compassionate. My fear held me back even knowing all that. When youve been in the closet long enough, that fear, that anxiety can become so thoroughly ingrained into your psyche that it holds you back even around those you trust. However that fear can be amplified around people where there is more to lose if anything goes wrong. We grow up hearing or witnessing stories of people who come out to their either openly hateful, or neutral, or seemingly loving parents, only for their parents to disown them, or abuse them, or in rare instances, kill them. Its something that can easily live rent free in your head for a long time. Even if that scenario has no basis in reality, that ever-nagging thought "what if, what if?" still lingers on. Even if you, as the parent do nothing wrong, it doesnt eliminate that fear. What I'm trying to say is, don't be too harsh on yourself. Maybe was just difficult for her. Best thing you can do is just be there for her and let her know from time to time that you love her. This is a situation where I genuinely dont think you were at fault. Sometimes the circumstances around this sort of thing are just complicated. Especially for a teenager. I mean, hell, I didnt even come out until I was 25 and knew since I was 14. So, coming out that young even indirectly does take a lot of guts. You didnt fail as a parent. You did the best you could with the limited information you were given at the time. Remember, you're only human. The important thing is you know now and you love your daughter regardless. Thats already more than most of us could ask for in our parents.

I have just stumbled upon your videos and I love this so much. New sub, respect to you!

I ended up rage-watching Season 1. Haven't even been interested in watching Season 2. Thank you for your sacrifice.

Glad I got recommended your channel! I'm gonna binge the whole Whats On The Playlist Today series

Tuna, I'm 98% Lesbian. It's not 100% because my man crush is Jason Momoa 🤣. The only thing scarier than coming out to your parents is coming out to your grandparents. Those are the people that have given us life, nurtured us, and are our main sources of comfort. The thought of any part of us being rejected, especially by the people that we depend on that much, is terrifying. I was the same age as your daughter when I came out, back in the early 90s. Only to my mother at the time. I didn't come out to the rest of my family or friends until 2005. I didn't want to be gay. It was to the point where I would try to always have a boy on my arm. I was homophobic, making people around me aware that I thought it was weird. I figured nobody would suspect me if I aired my "disdain". Those feelings that I had inside, didn't come from my parents, or my grandparents per se. I think it was society in general. If you think of the language we use, in even being supportive to each other, we say things like, "That's normal, most people think that way" "I wish for you to have a normal, happy life", etc. It seems our goal, always, is to be "normal". When you're in your teen years and early 20s, the last thing you want to be is the lower percentile on anything. It seems like all of your time is spent trying to fit in. I struggled coming out, because I was still struggling from within. It took a number of years after I came out fully, for that struggle to subside. Even if you're a parent, you're still growing, and nobody on earth is perfect. I think of the band Rush and their song "Closer to the Heart", just keep living closer to the heart, and everything will be alright. Your daughter will be alright.

Well as a outsider looking in, I think it was just because your older and your kid might've felt that you weren't accepting cause of the generation you were born from, and it could be that a lot of parents disown their kids just because they are queer. I don't really believe that you did anything wrong, but it was just paranoia of being disowned or discriminated against by you own parents cause it's really common sadly. I can see that you're a good and accepting person, as I'm aware of you didn't do anything wrong really

Not sure how I stumbled across this video, but I’m happy I did! It takes a lot of courage and self-examination to own up to past shortcomings- which is strange considering every one of us has them. Our world is developing so rapidly, it’s difficult to understand everything when it’s coming at you all at once. As someone in his twenties who is not yet a parent, I can’t imagine how difficult it is navigating the current landscape raising children with the rapid and sudden societal and technological changes occuring. I just wanted to say 2 things: 1.) be patient with yourself - social media feels like the world is happening all at once, but we are still individuals with individual things to learn. Learning takes time. 2.) I’m not sure exactly the relationship you have with your daughter these days, but I would encourage you to speak to her directly about these thoughts. I’m sure she would appreciate your concern and self-examination. Mistakes and misunderstandings are inevitable, what matters is how we respond to them! Wishing you the best.

While Im very sympathetic to the introspective endeavor here, a young teenager is at many whims. Yes, genetics among them, but peers as well as you noted. Hence peers who stereotype older adults or your friend. I guess Im going to subscribe as you're sort of what Id like to be as a parent myself nearing middle age.

She could have also heard negative stories of coming out to your parents. Maybe your video will work the opposite way and convince some people to be brave enough to have that conversation in person and easier. Maybe it will cause other parents to think of the words to say if their child does come out to them. Beautiful story, thank you for sharing

Sometimes the world is scary, and often mean to queer people. We know older adults may hold more prejudice compared to our peers just bc of the values they were taught, or just the lack of personally knowing Lgbtq people. As a queer girl myself, theres a lot of invisible barriers that make coming out scary, even to the people you trust. Just the fact that you've been looking towards yourself and trying to improve is leagues better than what many other parents do. If she still talks to you, then you're doing fine. I know it must hurt, but dont be too harsh to yourself.

Hi! I think from your video it is very apparent you are doing your best for your daughter and the world. To sit down and reflect is a hard thing to do. Many would rather take it out on the world and even their children. Thank you for being yourself, and for trying to be the best dad you can for your daughter. I am very grateful to have stumbled upon this video of yours, it's very different to how my parents behaved way back when. They lack the ability to reflect, I am glad you do and it was nice to see you go through your thoughts as a parent. Don't be too hard on yourself, I'm sure you'll be fine. And if you are not sure, maybe it is something you can talk to your daughter about now, if you find the time. Thanks for being vulnerable.

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As a queer person, it is a scary world. We are four times more likely to have a violent crime committed towards us. Of the 4.2 million homeless youth in the states, 40% are queer, while only 9.2% of the total youth are queer. Part of it may be your failing, but it could also be the world just being so unfriendly to us. So long as you try to understand and stay open to improving yourself, you will already be doing enough. You are also looking within rather than lashing out at your daughter, so you are doing leagues better than my parents. So do not be hard on yourself.

Loved your story, and thank you for the insight. I hope your daughter feels better about herself!

Interesting, thanks for posting.

This was my dad's favorite film (and soundtrack). I had seen bits of it when I was a kid but I thought it was boring. I finally watched it in its entirety with my mom a few months ago. It felt like I was getting a glimpse into my dad's soul - the unspoken part of his personality that I was too immature to recognize when he was alive. Now that I am older I get it, and as a result, I understand him better. Great video and all the best ✌

Hey this was a great little video. Subbed

Hoteling was the term you were looking for at 9:00min, I think. Another great video though, modern social isolation is real. I've been feeling it strongly since changing careers several years ago. It requires a concerted effort to overcome it, that as you said is just hard and easier to just not do.