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I love this for you! Yes! You are soooo worthy of experiencing EVERYTHING that life has to offer you! You got this!!

Yesssss!!!! Exactly!!! I like to remind others (and myself) the only chance to get what you want is by asking. It might still be no - BUT the answer to the unasked questions is ALWAYS no.

so true

You're quite welcome!

That's great!!! I'm so glad you're taking action!! Enjoy

You're welcome and thank you for sharing!!!

If values help others "speak your language" I figure why hide them? Plus one of mine is Authenticity sooooo. :) I have found that my current values are Authenticity, Creativity, and Curiosity.

Thanks so much for YOUR vulnerability and braveness in sharing and asking!!!

So, remember that it is not 100% a tell but often it is. But, I am curious if some of that triggering/low self-esteem was coming from invalidation of your core values. For instance, if your values might be something like belonging, achievement, or supportiveness, it may have felt like the criticism was stepping on your values. Identifying, and using our values, can be a way to boost our self worth. I have also found that, as my self-esteem grew, my values changes. (There is a separate conversation here about did they change as I learned more about life, or did I just uncover more of my layers so that I was able to more clearly see what was really in there. To me, it feels irrelevant. But, being open to the possibility that your values might change or evolve is important.) I used to hold flexibility as my strongest core value. I now realize that what I was calling flexibility was really my defense mechanism to minimize criticism. (I could be whomever I needed to be in order to fit in and not be made fun of.) Now that I'm not living a life dedicated to avoiding embarrassment, I can see that authenticity, is much more important to me than not being criticized. I still value flexibility in a different, more authentic, way. It no longer is one of my core values though.

You're welcome, Sammy! And thank YOU!

You're quite welcome!

I love it! Really, does anyone really outgrow bubbles?

Yessss! Do it! Do it! Do it! (A little peer pressure for you to feel like a kid again.) HAHA!!

Right?!?! The ROI on a gratitude practice is huuuuuuug!

Yes, yes, yes! Keeping the focus on the desired outcome and off of the barrier between you and the desired outcome. The barrier being discomfort! Thanks so much for that "action step".

Yesssss! Get it!!! How's it going so far?

Oh, isn't it though?! This is a hard one. The good news is, we usually have lots of opportunities to practice this acceptance as there are usually lots of opportunities to "try again".

Yessss! "You have to accept them with where they are on this journey of life." What a great reminder that, you can't ever control what others will say, think, feel. You can only control yourself. Each relationship will have different boundaries - it is in recognizing that you have a CHOICE and own that choice of where your boundaries are that is most important. Although you cannot choose who you share DNA with, you do choose how your communicate with them and how you react to them. We can choose to take on more responsibility in a certain relationship, knowing that any resentment that pops up is OURS to own and not theirs.

Yesssss!

Yayyyy! I can't wait to hear how your experience goes!

You are quite welcome! Thank you for your comment. It’s not always easy to remember, let alone implement, but once we get in the habit it is sooooo powerful.

One question I like to start with is, “Who’s voice is saying you should?” Our shoulds are learned. From there you can’t start investigating what type of life YOU want to live?

That's great! I loooove my gratitude journals and I love going back and reviewing them too.

Yes! Thanks for the suggestion for another topic! "How and when to take a break from parenting." It can be a bit of a taboo topic as some believe that "the kids should always come first."

That's great Melinda! Go get it!!!

Thanks! I appreciate that!

I'm so glad! Don't ya love when that happens? Another tip I have when it comes to parenting, (or management, or relationships of any kind) is to DO the thing that you want them to do and then invite them to join you. It is way more effective than just saying in words what you want them to do or believe - and YOU get the benefit of the thought/exercise too! Good luck with it all!

Thanks so much!

You are quite welcome! It has been soooo helpful for me.

You are so welcome! It's nice to "see" you here. :)

Great! Sooooo, how's it going?

Be sure to let me know how it goes!

You are quite welcome and thank YOU for the comment!

You are so welcome! Thanks for the comment.