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CommunityFosterCare
United Kingdom
เข้าร่วมเมื่อ 7 เม.ย. 2013
Community Foster Care is an award winning charity and social enterprise operating as an independent foster care agency in Gloucestershire, Wiltshire, Swindon, Cumbria and Lancashire. Our TH-cam Channel features videos we hope might be of interest to our looked after children, carers, staff and other interested parties.
How Shame can Affect Foster Children | Psychotherapy | Community Foster Care
Vicky Blackwell, Child and Adolescent Psychotherapist, shares her experiences around shame in foster children - how it affects them, where it might come from and how to deal with it to help reduce the stress it can cause on their nervous systems and what this can look like in negative responses and behaviour.
Vicky reminds us that shame can be deep rooted in foster children, due to the awareness that their birth family may have been assessed as 'not good enough' by the system and society. Without the stability early in life, a foster child will very likely already be grappling with their self worth, self love and confidence. If they find themselves in many different social situations due to moving between foster families and placements, shame can often be present due to their lack of perceived belonging.
Children and young people often cannot comprehend, without professional help, why they are in their individual situation, that it is not their fault and that these difficult experiences and feelings are not their identity but things that have happened to them. Unfortunately, many children and young people in foster care internalise these experiences and feelings, making meaning that they are not good enough or bad. This can lead to challenging behaviours as these emotions are so big and many of these looked after children have never been modelled the skills to process such emotion.
We believe in therapeutic parenting, particularly for those children like foster children who have large amounts of unprocessed trauma. This is why we share these psychotherapy videos, to provide valuable insight for anyone struggling to make sense of challenging behaviour.
Learn more about approach to therapeutic fostering - www.communityfostercare.co.uk/what-is-therapeutic-fostering
Vicky reminds us that shame can be deep rooted in foster children, due to the awareness that their birth family may have been assessed as 'not good enough' by the system and society. Without the stability early in life, a foster child will very likely already be grappling with their self worth, self love and confidence. If they find themselves in many different social situations due to moving between foster families and placements, shame can often be present due to their lack of perceived belonging.
Children and young people often cannot comprehend, without professional help, why they are in their individual situation, that it is not their fault and that these difficult experiences and feelings are not their identity but things that have happened to them. Unfortunately, many children and young people in foster care internalise these experiences and feelings, making meaning that they are not good enough or bad. This can lead to challenging behaviours as these emotions are so big and many of these looked after children have never been modelled the skills to process such emotion.
We believe in therapeutic parenting, particularly for those children like foster children who have large amounts of unprocessed trauma. This is why we share these psychotherapy videos, to provide valuable insight for anyone struggling to make sense of challenging behaviour.
Learn more about approach to therapeutic fostering - www.communityfostercare.co.uk/what-is-therapeutic-fostering
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Why Foster? | Foster Parent, Maggie, Shares Her Reasons | Community Foster Care
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Why fostering? It's one of the first things our social workers will want to understand when they're speaking to new enquiries. Understanding people's motivation for wanting to become a foster carer, is a really important part of the fostering assessment process. Our foster parent, Maggie, shares what made her want to become a foster carer. Visit - www.communityfostercare.co.uk/ video by Hannah ...
Why Foster? | Foster Parent, Simon, Shares | Community Foster Care
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Our foster parent, Simon, shares his reasons to answer the question; why foster? As a youth worker, Simon felt he could offer more to children and young people who needed help and support - fostering felt like the clear answer. Visit - www.communityfostercare.co.uk/ video by Hannah Reynolds
Why Foster? | Foster Parent, Helen, Shares Her Reasons | Community Foster Care
มุมมอง 103ปีที่แล้ว
Understanding the motivation behind why people foster, is really important as part of the fostering assessment process. Fostering draws those who want to help people and are passionate about social change but also, people who take a lot from parenting. Our foster parent, Helen, shares her reasons for wanting to start fostering. Visit - www.communityfostercare.co.uk/ video by Hannah Reynolds
Best Part of Fostering | Foster Carer - Simon | Community Foster Care
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Simon shares what the best part of being a foster parent has been for him. There are plenty of challenges of fostering children but knowing you're laying positive groundwork for that child and seeing the results of your efforts and consistency cannot be beaten. Visit - www.communityfostercare.co.uk/ video by Hannah Reynolds
Best Part of Being a Foster Parent | Foster Carer - Helen | Community Foster Care
มุมมอง 96ปีที่แล้ว
Fostering isn't referred to as a vocation for no reason, there are lots of challenges with fostering but as our foster parent, Helen, says - the good far outweigh the bad. Helen shares the best part of being a foster parent in her experience. Visit - www.communityfostercare.co.uk/ video by Hannah Reynolds
Hardest Part of Being a Foster Parent | Foster Carer - Maggie | Community Foster Care
มุมมอง 90ปีที่แล้ว
What is the hardest part of being a foster parent? We asked our foster carer, Maggie, what she had found to be the most difficult part of fostering. We often find people thinking about fostering are concerned about saying goodbye, about grieving when a foster child moves on which is, of course, a valid concern and something that many foster carers will experience but Maggie's reflections show a...
Most Difficult Part of Fostering | Foster Parent - Simon - Community Foster Care
มุมมอง 132ปีที่แล้ว
As a fostering agency, we believe it's important to be transparent with people thinking about fostering what the realities of fostering can be. We asked our foster carer, Simon, who has been fostering in Gloucestershire with Community Foster Care since 2018, what the hardest part of fostering has been for him and his family. Visit - www.communityfostercare.co.uk/ video by Hannah Reynolds
Maggie's Favourite Thing About Fostering with Community Foster Care
มุมมอง 40ปีที่แล้ว
If you're looking into different fostering agencies, chances are you'd like to hear what their foster carers have to say about them. Some of our most frequent feedback from our foster parents and community is the family feel of the organisation. Community isn't just in our name, it's a key part of how we function. Foster carers do a very challenging job and they need good support networks aroun...
Hardest Part of Fostering | Foster Parent - Helen | Community Foster Care
มุมมอง 216ปีที่แล้ว
There are so many wonderful things about being a foster parent but, inevitably, there are some really tough parts. Fostering is not an easy vocation, looking after traumatised children can be extremely challenging and resilience is a much value characteristic when we are assessing potential foster carers. Helen has been fostering in Gloucestershire with Community Foster Care since 2019. Here sh...
Foster Parent, Maggie, Shares Best Part of Fostering | Community Foster Care
มุมมอง 78ปีที่แล้ว
Fostering children is not an easy role but we always love hearing from our foster carers what their favourite part of fostering is. For Maggie, who has been fostering in Gloucestershire with Community Foster Care since 2007, seeing a foster child start to relax and really trust is the best part of fostering. Visit - www.communityfostercare.co.uk/ video by Hannah Reynolds
Thinking About Fostering? | Foster Parent Advice - Maggie | Community Foster Care
มุมมอง 43ปีที่แล้ว
Maggie has been fostering in Gloucestershire with Community Foster Care since 2007, so she knows a thing or two! We understanding that when anyone is thinking fostering and becoming a foster parent, they take their time and they do their research. Talking to foster carers who have been doing it for years is invaluable, so we hope Maggie's advice can help you if you're considering fostering. Vis...
My Life in Foster Care | Casey's Fostering Story | Community Foster Care | UK Foster Experience
มุมมอง 43Kปีที่แล้ว
Casey has been living in foster care for the majority of her life. As a young child, she was in and out of different foster homes until the age of four when she entered the care system full time. What followed has been a really difficult journey for Casey, with a huge amount of trauma no child should ever go through. Placed in a Special Guardianship through her local authority, Casey believed s...
Thinking About Fostering? | Foster Parent Advice - Simon | Community Foster Care
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Thinking About Fostering? | Foster Parent Advice - Simon | Community Foster Care
Not For Profit Fostering Agency | Maggie - Why Choose Community Foster Care?
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Not For Profit Fostering Agency | Maggie - Why Choose Community Foster Care?
Thinking About Fostering a Child / Children? | Foster Parent, Helen's Advice | Community Foster Care
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Thinking About Fostering a Child / Children? | Foster Parent, Helen's Advice | Community Foster Care
Foster Carer, Maggie, Answers Fostering FAQs UK | Community Foster Care
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Foster Carer, Maggie, Answers Fostering FAQs UK | Community Foster Care
Teaching Young People with Trauma | Educational Resource | Foster Children |Community Foster Care
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Teaching Young People with Trauma | Educational Resource | Foster Children |Community Foster Care
Why Helen Chose to Foster with a Charity | Not For Profit Fostering | Community Foster Care
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Why Helen Chose to Foster with a Charity | Not For Profit Fostering | Community Foster Care
Why choose a not for profit fostering agency? | Foster Carer, Simon, Shares | Community Foster Care
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Why choose a not for profit fostering agency? | Foster Carer, Simon, Shares | Community Foster Care
Former Foster Child Creates Welcome Gift Boxes for New Children in Care | Community Foster Care
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Former Foster Child Creates Welcome Gift Boxes for New Children in Care | Community Foster Care
How to Speak to Foster Children About War in Ukraine | Psychotherapy | Community Foster Care
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How to Speak to Foster Children About War in Ukraine | Psychotherapy | Community Foster Care
How Does Fostering Affect Birth Children? | Community Foster Care
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How Does Fostering Affect Birth Children? | Community Foster Care
Becoming a Foster Parent | Newly Approved | Fostering Assessment | Community Foster Care
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Becoming a Foster Parent | Newly Approved | Fostering Assessment | Community Foster Care
What is Trauma? How Do You Heal From Trauma? | Psychotherapy | Community Foster Care
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What is Trauma? How Do You Heal From Trauma? | Psychotherapy | Community Foster Care
Listening to our Young People | Community Foster Care
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Listening to our Young People | Community Foster Care
Meet our Foster Carer, Simon | Community Foster Care
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Meet our Foster Carer, Simon | Community Foster Care
Meet our Foster Carer, Helen | Community Foster Care
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Meet our Foster Carer, Helen | Community Foster Care
Leaving Foster Care | Naval's Story | Community Foster Care
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Leaving Foster Care | Naval's Story | Community Foster Care
In my opinion you have to have balls of steel to talk about this stuff as I am a foster child I could defo talk about this for TH-cam but it would be hard because I don’t remember anything that really happened when I lived with my mother only what my brothers and sisters have told me 👍
Thank. You for sharing your story.
Casey is an amazing young woman, so insightful and clever and she will make a success of anything she decides to do with her life she has built such a firm foundation with the bricks life has thrown at her. What a fantastic person. All the very best in life Casey 💖
Well done Casey, you should be proud of yourself, you are so wise and strong and brave xx
I am at the very beginning of my foster care journey. I hope to be able to offer a safe and empowering home to teenagers like yourself, Casey. You are an inspiration to me to be able to embrace what is understandably a very invasive process. My life has been very traumatic too though my context is different but like you I'm determined that no young person should have to go through what you and I have been through, at least not alone. Thank you and I hope we can both become part of our national foster carers family and support each other and others to be able to provide this essential, safe start in life. God bless.
My God. 😰
I’m so sorry for what you had to face and endure. No human deserves this. I don’t know you but feel so proud of the strength you have, I admire the young woman you are. You’re amazing Casey. Me and my partner are looking into fostering atm, and watching this just confirms that I need to do this. Sending you love and healing ❤
As someone who went through 27 different foster homes/group homes. This video definitely helps explain why we acted the way we did.
Thank you for stepping up to be a Foster Carer, it's incredibly hard at times but completely worth it! Best of luck with your first placement.
I wish you the best and a bright future. Thank you for sharing your story Casey! <3
Casey, what a remarkable young lady you are. Thank you for sharing your story, you should be so proud of yourself. I admire your honesty and vulnerability that you showed but also how positive you are for the future. I wish you every success in what you want to achieve and know you will ❣️
Quick question I wanted to know how two get a stating I no long get foster care money
You are a strong girl ❤❤❤❤
hard to say this back in 2003 i was placed in to care because my mother didn't want me she has failed me and my youngest sister use to beat me with a belt for no reason and she got away with it all from the police i would of rather stayed in care for the rest of my childhood growing up knowing i was loved by staff i had there one question is i will always ask to my mother is why did you do that to me for no reason should not of had kids at all because my mother is a failure !!!
I try to never let others who have mental health problems make mine worse than what it is now. Because i mean 🧐 I'm not crazy... just been through some crazy $#!+.....
What an incredible young lady ❤
What an amazing young lady!! You are definitely not alone! Continue to take one day at a time and keep travelling on the road you're on! You're not allowing the past to define you and that is amazing 😀.
Dear Casey ❤ You should be so proud of yourself,I so admire you as person 🙌🏼 Thank you so much, watching your video as been so educational to me answering and or explaining questions as I’m looking into fostering, thank you so much 💐 I really wish you get a podcast🙌🏼
Ive been in care for about 7 years, my sister whent into care a few months ago. She the happiest ive ever seen her. 1:30 im deciding whether to cut my mum off rn, 14 and deciding who is in my life. My mums also bipolar Ive lost most of my memories because of trauma, ive been in around 20 diffrent foster placements and i moved through family. I was neglected and abused by them and neglected by social workers. 6:09 thats horrific, no one should EVER expeirence this. I despise social services. Theyve ruined my life. They shluldhave noticed your abuse sooner. 11:39 my foster parents that ive almost been with for 5 yers, they take me on a cruise every year and let me getevery opportunity i can reach. Oh and im autistic and social services refused to tell people that i had VOILENT and AGRESSIVE meltdowns. Love you all <3
Listening that a baby gets shouted or hit or ignored out there when she cries is making me emotional. They can’t do anything for themselves please let’s help them and love them
Ive been in care for about 7 years, my sister whent into care a few months ago. She the happiest ive ever seen her. 1:30 im deciding whether to cut my mum off rn, 14 and deciding who is in my life. My mums also bipolar Ive lost most of my memories because of trauma, ive been in around 20 diffrent foster placements and i moved through family. I was neglected and abused by them and neglected by social workers. 6:09 thats horrific, no one should EVER expeirence this. I despise social services. Theyve ruined my life. They shluldhave noticed your abuse sooner. 11:39 my foster parents that ive almost been with for 5 yers, they take me on a cruise every year and let me getevery opportunity i can reach. Oh and im autistic and social services refused to tell people that i had VOILENT and AGRESSIVE meltdowns. Love you all <3
Well-done for using your pain to help others. People who have gone through experiences are the best to help others because they walked the road. Well done.
Hi Casey are you planning having children yourself? We love you darling❤
Casey you are an inspiration ..God Bless 🙏
I’m so sorry for your experience the system failed you. I hope you’re able to move past it and get therapeutic support. You deserve so much better ❤
I have to prepare for my Son to go through all this just because I have a learning difficulty the system needs sorting 😥
In and out of placements...very telling...
Thank you for informative resources for foster parents, pastor, teacher, missionary and leader.
This girl is processing her trauma at 18 years old which is massive, it's absolutely critical to do this as soon as possible, not for status and riches, but for true wealth which is a healthy mind, the true currency of our existence. This is something I haven't done and still struggling with it to this very day. I went into care at 6 years old, I'm now 41. I have a Degree, a good job, a great woman I've been with for 23 years, 2 beautiful children at 5 and 9 however there is something missing in my memory and soul, literally, I cannot remember anything from my childhood from the age of 6 to the age of 12 years old. I now know my mind has blanked things out to keep me from breaking down with trauma but It's like an itch I have to scratch. My file is there to take and read from the social services whenever I want but I'm literally shit scared to read that file. How strange to know that I need to know my history to better myself but cannot bring myself to do it. My mind is literally fractured with a personality desperately trying to protect me from my past. This is the rantings, and true face of childhood trauma and this is my story for anyone who cares to know it.
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What an amazingly strong wonderful person you are Casey. Jesus Christ cares so much for you and cares about all the abuse they put you through. God will deal with those abusers. You are so precious to God the Father
Getting help really can feel impossible. My father kicked me out & wanted me gone that day, but when I gained the strength to leave, and realized the joy I could have in freedom… the light in my eyes angered him, he got in my face and asked where I thought I was going. He attacked me, called the police and lied. The police asked me nothing, and when I wanted to speak, they allowed my father in the room. The policemen laughed at me, and ignored me, had a conversation, and left. He demanded I get myself to school, and wouldn’t allow me access to any phones or anything to contact help. So I left, and somehow ended up getting contact with an elderly lady from church, who agreed to bring me to my mother. Even in the woman’s care, I was punished for lies my father told her. The woman thought we needed a breather, and I was just rebellious. Even there, he had a hold on destroying my life. When my mother brought me into her home, it wasn’t over, it was endless calls, texts, and torment. He reported me kidnapped, had the church praying for him, and police came pounding to take me back.
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Oh my god. Poor girl. I can tell she's putting on a brave face to be able to talk about it, but I can't imagine how much pain she's been in throughout her life. And I'm saying that as someone who was abused, but it wasn't nearly as bad as what she's been through. I hope she can keep on healing, it takes time but it gradually gets easier.
God Bless You, inspiring!
Bless your Heart, from throwaway altar boy
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she would be a great foster carer
I can empathize. I spent the time from when I was 1 month old to 3 and a half in foster care. Went through a failed adoption with every kind of abuse you can imagine and went back into foster care when I was 15. Please get the psychological help you need. I didn’t and found myself, at the age of 50 basically almost out of thin air an alcoholic. My kids had left home so I didn’t have to keep it together.
Casey, bless you, thank you so much for sharing. What you’ve been through no child should ever have to go through. I hope as your life moves on you have so much love and happiness always x
I know what it is to be hit & hit & hit. I was beaten unsconcious many times. I still cannot get my head around it. Trying now in my 60s. It was like I was a cooked potato & they were trying to mash me. That is the nearest I can get. Trying to get my head around the fact that my mother did not in the slightest bit care what damage she did. It was like she just didn't even notice what she was doing to me. It was like nothing about me was important enough to be worth anyone noticing anything about.
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So so sorry ❤
Casey did the council find you a home? Just watching Joe Swash's programme
Casey, you are so extraordinarily brave and strong. Your story will help other children that are living similar experiences. I am a teacher and worked as a carer and I’m so glad that in the end school helped you, I hope that my children will feel safe and comfortable to confide in me too. You’re so strong and you deserve all the love and respect in the world and I’m so proud that you didn’t let your childhood bring you down but you used it as a ladder to raise you above. Thank you for being you and talking so openly ❤
Currently in the process of taking on my cousin on.. I’m researching trying to learn. Thank you for your story! For what you have endured you have better self awareness than most 30 year old I know Good luck to you and your family ❤
Oh this made me so scared im a foster carer with 2 kids about to go to another carers home for long term
Are you ok?
I'm so very sorry you experienced this in your young life. May God bring you peace and joy in your life!!!❤
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Really lovely lady . Interesting thank you ❤
Thank you for sharing, Casey. You are a very brave woman! I am currently fostering a teenager, and I have a daughter of my own (11 years old). The dynamics can get very tricky. Stories like yours can motivate and encourage myself and both my girls.
Thank , interesting stories and compelling explanations. You are wonderful souls and your work is so much needed.
Excellent video! Valuable advice ❤️