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I struggle with the "pills don't teach skills" I have ADD and am not on medication right now. I can only imagine how much better my attention might be if i were on medication. But if i were to argue to someone that is not at a healthy level of functionality in life (overly co-dependant, overly forgetful, preforming poorly at whatever tasks are required of one's life demands) that this issue is a lack of tasks/skills management... oh man that just brings me back to school days when my parents and teachers just said "keep a planner" "follow checklists" "remember to focus". Talk about putting the cart before the horse. I CANT FOCUS OR REMEMBER TO FOCUS. Haha. When my parents put me on medication... That when I was able to learn how to manage skills and tasks. Remember that have checklists in place. "Focus" on focusing. I am well aware this was the #3 on your list and you aren't advocating that people get off of medicine. But I have heard that argument before and felt like i needed to vent a little. Pills put people in the position to figure out what is "normalcy" in order to build those skills to help them in their life continuing to use medicine or like me, get off of medicine (although sometimes I think to myself it might do me good haha).

Sweet potato's! I love them and almost always have one that rots. Now I see my rotten veggies as "compost food". 😊

My adhd says hell yes,body double! But my autism says hmm perception?? No thx lmao

This is why I excel at doing other people's shit instead of my own

That doesn't work for me. I have to be without other people around me to focus.

I love hearing your thoughts on this.

I thought recent research showed that ADHD was genetic, but trauma could trigger the genetic code to activate ADHD symptoms. Although trauma wasn't the only thing to trigger it

Hi Emma! I’m a fellow creator and a few of us small creators are creating play lists which recommend other small creators. I’ve subscribed to your channel to support our community❤ I saw you on someone’s playlist.

Gosh you look so pretty ❤ as someone who’s struggling to understand whether she has adhd or not, thanks for the info😊

I get too much of a dopamine hit from carbs. I can't stop

It's not that I wasn't listening, I was listening to you and everybody else in my head. I think that a lot. I recently tried vyvanse and concerta. Neither did any good. I just live with it.

I can relate. I suspect I have ADHD. Any suggestions on how best to get diagnosed? What treatments have helped you? Thanks for making this. It really helps to meditate and watch those thought just go on by. Or I sometimes try writing some down as a purging action so I don't feel like I have to remember them.

Hi Emma! I agree with so much of what you said! :) do you live in New England? Id be an ADHD friend. :D I don't think you live near me though. 🤔 I hope you have a wonderful day! ❤️

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im a adhd afab (im trans aka im a guy) and i like the grocery store if im with my parents or my brother because they make me feel safe, i like looking atound and looking at the packaging and what i could get and seeing what new things they have in the shelves that day

Both of those dresses look amazing! I love window shopping - "looking at all the things." Just looking at interesting things makes me happy. I have fond childhood memories of the local mall, as that was the only thing to do. Lol

I think this is really good to ask! As someone who was diagnosed 25 years go, my internalized abilism, still pretty much until the last 2 years expected myself to do what other people can do. (Which isn't helpful. You can't work towards fixing or making changes to accomodate something, if you don't acknowledge it). For me I have been working with a counselor who has adhd herself. My time blindness is bad. And executive functioning is not great. So I have had to develop a few hacks to helpme with those over the years. Including a planner for me to keep track of long term goals, shedule, appointments, as well as the daily spaces to put my routine stuff there. Besides that, I am realizing that no one thing alone "fixes" or helps anything. It just helps some. Medicine helps with some things. Lists and charts to help me to get into a routine, and not get lost, help some. But also diet is important. (Wish it wasn't), having to remember to drink water, and my #1 non-negotiable is take my pills when I first wake up or I will forget, which makes everything harder. I have been off my routines that I have slowly built up to, the last month because I was renewing a certification and studying for that. Now I have to start over. At least I know what to do to get there, and accept this is what I have to do. But besides those things, (which for me, is a lot!!), and trying to talk to my boss for getting accommodations at work, I haven't thought of anything else? So when you asked that, I was just thinking, what other accomodations can you make for yourself for this, besides pills, rest, and charts? 🤔 I wonder if there is a whole other aspect of life, that I could do to help myself? Besides 1) the foundation stuff first, pills everyday, eating, water, and slowly regulating sleep schedule, and to start walking when I can, 2) Utilizing charts and planners that help me be on track, verses forgetting everything constantly, or being swallowed up by the couch all day, not knowing why I even entered a room. Lol, And 3) asking for accomodations at work or trying to figure out what i even can be successful at, and make better decisions of my work choices, Are there other kinds of accommodations we can use? Thanks!! 🙏🏻 💖💖💖💖💖🤗🥰👩🏻‍🎤💃🏻

yes yes and yes. Except I like certain types of shopping. I like grocery shopping and shopping in thrift stores. But walking through a mall with hundreds of shops and the expectation of doing the same thing over and over again in multiple shops…while moving from each shop in a sea of people and noise….nope! ❤

Have you tried a store like Aldi's (if they're still around) or maybe trader Joe's? I have autism so I have a lot of sensory issues. I just choose to go to these smaller grocery stores for food, or I order curbside from the big chain grocery store. The country music at my local large grocery store drives me BONKERS lol

This doesn't just apply to women. I'm in the process of trying to figure this out for myself.

I struggle with getting "out of the house" things done like setting an apt for my insurance company to update our policy.

So overwhelming! The lights, the noise, and too many choices

I go as early as possible. All the people stress me out. And why do they need music?

I always buy stuff I don’t need. I also often forget stuff in one area and have to go all the way back

Do delivery like instacart

Im an adhd woman and i usually like it for the first part and i think its just because im excited to look at things i might get but then after a while i get really tired

For me, it's buying frozen prepped vegetables. They aren't going to go off, and you just throw them in the pan. For salad (ick), it's got to be prepped crudités.

As a man with ADHD, I’d say this strongly speaks out to me as well..I have a hard time asking for or admitting i need help…i tend to overwork myself and never feel as though I do enough as a game developer and author. I never feel as though I am enough so the self acceptance part really hit me.

Thanks, Lady! I believe in you, too!!

And get a more supportive group of people around you

It's really hard for me to say how long I have been masking. I don't even know what is me and what is a mask. I grew up undiagnosed but also with a lot of child abuse and neglect so it's very hard for me to separate it all. For me it was all just survival. It's very interesting to ponder. I have created a very slow quiet life for myself, so now I have the time and space to do so.

It's being "too sensitive"... They are like, .. ohhh I was going to talk with you, and now you are going to tell me about x, y, z,? I'm not allowed to have problems, so you can't. Or no one I knows has that... Or just focus better...like it's just about being distracted. Losing time.. disorganized thinking, short term memory, paralysis... I mean these things - they are happening. But if you "complain" about something, that culturally is not considered polite to talk about your issues. That's a you problem.. kind of thing. Or maybe you should go to a counselor about that? (Meaning not me) Omg...there are cultural attitudes and etiquette rules they adhere to. They just want to ___, (hang out, or work), not talk about problem stuff. And if you do, there is this thing.. oh.. why is she talking about that? Get over it. I have to...what do you want special attention? Omg..we already feel crazy, and general attitudes on what is ok to talk about and what isn't, makes you think we actually are. Which isn't helpful. Yeah .. neurotypical social rules. That is more important to them, than the actual content probably. It's a neurotypical world... And we are just living it it maybe.. Oh... And if you have a disability, why is it professionally and legally accepted protocol, that if you are asking for accommodations. You have to PROVE you have a disability with documentation etc. Why is the default mode to assume you are faking, unless proven otherwise?? I mean it doesn't make sense? You are faking unless proven innocent and you are only asking for a quieter atmosphere or it to be ok if you are a few minutes late. Meanwhile, murderers and rapists and terrible people who are put on trial, are considered "innocent" until proven guilty. Something is wrong here? 🤔💡 Definitely want to do a vlog on this soon, for sure! Sorry, I didn't mean to get triggered. Lol 😊 (Rambling with horrible grammar). But it is a problem. And how do you culturally socially, address a problem or talk about it, if people look at you funny for even having an issue. You don't fit into the role, or mold, or job expectations, or social expectations of you as a daughter, worker, family member, friend, that's a "you" problem. Everyone else has to tow the line, stop being a baby, etc. You instantly "other" yourself. It's such a tricky line to walk. Both in the work place, and with friends and family. Unwritten rules, that we didn't get. Meanwhile we don't want it to be an issue. We just want to let them know, so they know WHY these things happen. Even if you disclose to a boss discretely, they may make one accomodation, but, they don't want special treatment. So even though they act understanding, and you give them factual science based information, they still blindly expect you to follow the rules, them they expect YOU to be understanding of That, and do it anyway. So... It's like a waste of time. What careers have other people who have ADHD been able to be themselves, even though they might run late, or have autonomy at work? I would love to know! 💗💖🥰

Thank u for this.❤

This is so me. I was fifty when I realized I had ADHD. I was reading a book and the main character (a young adult man) had it. I told my husband that I think I might have ADHD and he just casually said "oh yeah, you totally do. I thought you knew that. I have been struggling and ask doctors for help since I was a teenager. When I told my therapist they had me take the test and was like oh yeah you have it.

Damn I do all of that 💀💀💀💀 I feel like the worst part is that it all FEELS so true... So in the moment I can never take action to make myself less anxious for eg, bc that anxiety will feel deserved....

Can you make your email link clickable. I’ll be able to click next time but don’t have the want to figure it out right now 😅

I kid you not.....the title of this had me worried and think you were going to say "but I am tired of helping them". This video really touched my heart 🥹. Thank you for all you do

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I think you have adhd. It’s all environmental. If we can look at this picture, you have a lot going. What should we call this? I see to much going on in the back ground. Pick your poison! It’s unfortunate you’ve been brainwashed!

So true!! I have heard so many stories of girls having their ADHD over looked until ADULTHOOD while every guy I know who has it was diagnosed early. Like the difference in time to diagnosis is astounding!

Thank you, algorithm, i needed to hear this.

I was thought to mask by my parents by the age of or 6, I can only imagine how much worse it must be for woman My Mother said often at the front porch: beyond this door you must hide everything, only when we come back can you show anything

I'm not able to find your contact information in your TH-cam profile.

Also doesn't solve the problem of what if I'm not in the mood for the meal when it arrives even though I felt like it at the time of choosing 😅

I'd love slow cooker food boxes, if they were a thing. Just let me drop it in and leave it to cook all day without me having to be there.

I tried Hello Fresh, but still ended up throwing most of them away, because I just couldn't actually use them. They were there, but I just didn't use them, and instead just raided the fridge/pantry for 'bits', while the HF quietly decomposed.

How do I get a hold of you to schedule a coaching session?